A Woman, Thinking

While I'm Sick....

Life Organizing and CQ ThoughtsPoppy LochridgeComment

Since I've been either depressed/feeling sorry for myself or sick all week, here's some soul work that I did last fall. I went away for a couple of days on an individual retreat, and designed a set of Soul Collage cards to identify the different aspects of my life. Like the soul they represent, these are a work of art in progress.

The Should Ladies


The Should Ladies are my bane. They are the perfectionists who sit on my shoulders, flipping through Good Housekeeping, and point out houses that are cleaner, better kept, and prettier than mine.

"Your house should look like this, dear," they tell me. "So what if you'd have to give up everything else you enjoy doing to make your house look like this, it would be so worth it!"

I've realized that decorating and housekeeping magazines (even Real Simple, which has a lot of "how to organize your home" articles) do for my Should Ladies what fashion magazines do for women's body images. They present an inaccessible standard, one that's unrealistic for someone who works a full time paying job, juggles part-time unpaid creative work, and tries to maintain supportive relationships.